Giving up is never the answer to any solution! Especially in dating and relationships. Do I hear an A-M-E-N? AMEN!
A single lady client emailed me this morning saying that she no-longer wished to continue meeting and dating the men on the MatchVIP database. Most had declined her profile and she was feeling vulnerable, embarrassed and hurt.
When someone hurts or rejects you it is easier to step away and make sure that you take the necessary steps to never be rejected again. We avoid at all cost being humiliated or hurt again. We may even stop dating as a whole. The next time we fall in love we make sure not to be vulnerable at all. In the process we hurt ourselves in the long run as we are sabotaging ourselves. Don’t you see: You are numbing who you are as a person at the cost of feeling anything painful.
Feelings come as a whole. In order to feel the good, you also need to feel the bad. By allowing yourself to feel, even if the feelings hurt, you will be more present and alive to be who you are meant to be. You will also learn to deal with these feeling and to project any insecurities back to the individuals who made you feel that way.
So stop paralyzing yourself, get out there and start feeling – even if it sucks. I say put another picture up there and start dating again!!!