Statistics show that more than half of single women strongly believe that their success is an intimidating factor when they date men. I take it that you agree with this too?
Women quite comfortably play the “He’s intimidated by me.” Card, and have for ages.
I strongly feel that many successful women use this as a copout, so that they don’t have to deal with the real issue at hand, whatever that may be.
Most successful women elect their career above their personal life, spending more time and effort on pursuing work, rather than a meaningful relationship.
When things don’t go as planned in a relationship and yet another one bites the dust, our best friends (with good intentions, no doubt) don’t help us by playing along. Sipping cocktails, discussing his shortcomings and supposed insecurities will never help you to understand what really went wrong.
If you think about it carefully you will realise that it has very little to do with gender. The truth is that smart, strong and ambitious people do intimidate people who are weak, submissive and passive. It is the gap in intelligence, and perhaps aggression that is the intimidating factor. Not the difference in sexes.
To prove my point: A recent survey conducted in the United States showed that single 30-year-old women with a degree were far more likely to marry before they reached the age of 40 than their uneducated counterparts.
Yes, of course there are men out there who will be insecure enough to be intimidated by your success, education or income. You’re probably out of their league, they know it, and that is why they feel threatened. If you have shown him nothing but kindness and respect, and he is still intimidated, then this is his problem not yours.
But don’t keep using this as an excuse. Some women use this as a cover up for male-alienating-behaviours that are so deeply rooted that they aren’t even aware that they are doing this.
Remember that it is also about being approachable. If you act like you don’t need him, then what is the point really? Men want to feel needed in some form or another. It doesn’t have to be financially.
Women often tell men just how successful and busy they are, without realising that they are projecting that there is no time for someone special in their life. Don’t make him wonder how he will fit in to your busy routine.
As a single, successful and intelligent woman stop yourself from buying into the whole: “He is intimidated by me” act and rather try to understand why this encounter was not a success. Reflect, think about it and make the necessary changes.