Beauty?  Brains?  A super cook?  This is certainly a question that has baffled the female species as well as corporate dating services for ages.  Before we elaborate, I believe it is essential to note (for the sake of keeping the peace) that all men are different.  They go through many life stages, and what any particular man is looking for in a woman varies when he is looking to find love.  However, there are some basic guidelines as to what attracts a man to a woman.

1. Men are visual creatures and look for physical health and attraction when choosing a partner

Yes ladies, most certainly not what we wanted to hear in our search for love – but none the less, the truth.  Men choose their mate mostly by the way they look, someone they are physically attracted to and who portrays overall physical health.

This is not to say you have to be a super model, but they are looking for someone who takes pride in their appearance.   Men are attracted to women who look and feel great.  Such women also exude confidence which men find very sexy.  You need to respect and love yourself before you can expect a man to do the same.

Having said that, men are either initially attracted to you or they aren’t and no dating service or dating advice offered can make them become attracted to you.  As luck would have it, beauty is in the eye of the beholder and somewhere out there is a man that will appreciate your unique qualities and the effort you put into your appearance.

In short, men want a woman who looks great and is confident about her appearance.   But hold on ladies, just being physically attractive won’t guarantee that a man falls for you:

2. Men are attracted to women who are trustworthy, kind and feminine

A woman’s personality is what men consider to be her most beautiful trait.   I personally hear this from men who sign up with my dating service on a daily basis.  What a pleasure when he discovers that the person he finds physically attractive is also someone he can completely trust.  Trust not to cheat on him.  Trust in such a manner that he can share his deepest feelings and emotional needs.  Yes, he has found love!

A cold, hardened and criticising demeanour will scare off any man.  Getting angry and screaming is also not considered to be an attractive trait.  Women who are gentle, caring and sincere will be sure to win a man over.  Recent studies have shown that men rate emotional stability and good character right up there in terms of choosing a life partner.

A feminine lady is a lady he will be proud to introduce to his friends when he has found love.  If you choose not to be feminine then that’s fine as well.  But then you should expect him to introduce you as one of his friends and not his girlfriend.  Being one of the boys doesn’t mean you are going to win one of them over.

3. Men want to be respected

The shifting role of men and women in society is clear.  A mans perception of the role he plays has changed, and in many cases men actually prefer not to be the sole provider.  Most men find independent, educated and financially stable women very sexy indeed.

Having said, any reputable dating service will also tell you that men want to be respected and their confidence need to be boosted.  A woman that supports him and treats him with respect is a woman he wants to be with.  The biggest mistake a woman can make is to belittle and criticize a man and to try and change who he is.  If a man cannot picture you as part of his support system then you will not be the one that he will ultimately commit to.

In closing with our theme:  “What do men want?”, it is important to say that in the long run, men do not want to be alone.  They share a longing (just like women) to be with someone special in a mutually beneficial and loving relationship so that they too may stop having to make use of corporate dating services.